A Celebration of Unity: Naila and Jabir’s Wedding Feast
Naila and Jabir’s wedding feast, which also celebrated Haroon and Hamdalah’s union, was a grand event filled with love, joy, and unity. This memorable day highlighted the amalgamation of three families, marking the beginning of a new journey for the couples.
A Celebration of Unity: Naila and Jabir’s Wedding Feast
The Grand Event
Nights rolled into days, leading up to the day of Naila and Jabir’s wedding feast, which also doubled as Haroon and Hamdalah’s wedding day. All roads led to one of the biggest event centers adjoining Lagos State and Ogun State. The beautiful and spacious event center was chosen because it could accommodate the three families involved: the Adamson family, the Akinsola family, and Hamdalah’s family.
A Unified Celebration
The Adamson family was marrying out their only daughter while their fourth son was also getting a wife. They invited numerous guests. The Akinsola family also invited many people, ensuring the event was grand. Hamdalah’s family arrived in large numbers, contributing to the festive atmosphere.
A Touch of Elegance
Amazingly, a uniform aso-ebi was picked by the three families, creating a visually captivating event. The siblings of the four celebrants wore a different uniform attire, adding to the elegance. The parents of the celebrants were also garbed in uniform outfits, symbolizing love, understanding, and unity.
The Beautiful Venue
The event center sparkled with beautiful designs, both interior and exterior. The two brides and two grooms were getting ready in their respective dressing rooms. Families from the three sides started arriving early. Amirah, Jabir’s first wife, also graced the occasion, managing her emotions with the support of friends and family.
Grand Entrance
A bold backdrop with the inscription: “Naila weds Jabir and Haroon weds Hamdalah” adorned the front of the event center. The MC mounted the podium, and the event began. The grooms were called out first, with Haroon dazzling in his emerald green Babariga. He walked to the podium, all smiles, accompanied by his friends.
The Elegant Brides
Hamdalah followed, walking majestically to the podium in a lush emerald green jilbab. Her gold purse and shoes added to her radiant appearance. Haroon welcomed her warmly as she took her seat beside him. Jabir, the second groom, was called out next, looking elegant in his navy blue Babariga, surrounded by his friends.
Celebrating Naila
Naila, the celebrated bride of Jabir, emerged gallantly in a beautiful navy blue jilbab, adorned with a pink purse and shoes. Her smile was as bright as sunshine, reflecting her happiness and fulfillment as she joined her husband on the podium.
The Lectures
The program continued with lectures. The first lecturer spoke about marriage, quoting Quran 30 – Ar-Rum verse 21, emphasizing the importance of mutual goodness and fulfilling each other’s rights for a lasting marriage. The second lecturer addressed polygyny in Islam, quoting Quran 4 – An-Nisa verse 3.
Addressing Polygyny
The lecturer invited Amirah, Jabir’s first wife, to the podium, emphasizing the importance of justice and equity in polygynous marriages. He commended Amirah for her presence and urged Jabir to treat his wives with fairness and understanding. The audience cheered as Jabir embraced both his wives, symbolizing unity and harmony.
Insights on Polygyny
The lecturer continued, providing practical examples to illustrate his points. “For example, if wife A has three children and wife B has just one, you can’t provide the same amount of food for them. You have to make provision for them according to their population. But then, you must also be just. Don’t give one wife jollof rice and chicken and give the second wife garri and kulikuli except that’s what she wants,” he said, and the audience laughed.
Practical Advice
“Who will want garri and kulikuli?” a woman raised her voice from the audience. “Toor! Women are not predictable!” the lecturer shrugged. “Men are only advised to fear Allah in their dealings with them. Even when you’re treating your wives according to their wants and circumstances, make sure you’re doing it with absolute fear of Allah, lest you’ll be raised on the day of judgement with one of your sides leaning sideways. The Prophet PBUH says: ‘Whoever has two wives and leans towards (i.e. favours) one of them (over the other), will come on the Day of Resurrection with half of his body leaning. May this never be your end, Jabir, please tread softly.’”
Addressing the Wives
“Thank you, sir,” Jabir showed gratitude to the lecturer. “You’re welcome. Now to the honourable wives,” he began to address Amirah and Naila. “Much as you don’t desire polygyny, you should understand that it’s the injunction of Allah and you should try your utmost best to follow and accept it whenever the situation calls for it or the need arises or you find yourselves in it. Because we’re servants who hear and obey our Lord’s injunction. That’s where agreeing with what we don’t desire comes to play.”
Embracing Polygyny
“Because we’re servants who want the pleasure of Allah, that’s why accepting polygyny is what we sue for if it becomes our reality. Because we know waging war against polygyny is like waging war against the words of Allah. The resistance women have for polygyny is borne out of so many reasons which could be personal and societal. However, the fact that polygyny is allowed in our religion should subjugate any personal or societal resistance. Am I making sense?” he paused to hear from them. They both nodded their heads, and he continued.
Understanding Resistance
“Even though polygyny is not compulsory, it’s still part of our religion. It can’t be removed from our religion. And the fact still remains that the benefits outweigh the shortcomings. While polygyny will not be everyone’s fate, I think being open to it will evaporate any form of opposition whenever it becomes one’s reality. Polygyny is a hard reality for women. It’s a bitter pill to swallow and it’s a hard blow that hits badly. No woman desires it.”
Accepting Fate
“The women whose husbands have tow the path of polygyny only agreed with it because it’s the injunction of Allah. They accepted their fate because they know that their objection once it has happened can incur the wrath of Allah.
